有一种爱叫做咎由自取有一种爱叫做一起争取
[yŏu yī zhŏng ài jiào zuò jiù yóu zì qŭ yŏu yī zhŏng ài jiào zuò yī qĭ zhēng qŭ]
The user is describing two kinds of love here. One kind suggests that some forms of affection bring pain on oneself (the feeling of 'getting what you deserve'), while the other kind of love requires both sides to make efforts together and struggle for their mutual relationship.