虐心虐人不虐你伤心伤人不伤你
[nüè xīn nüè rén bù nüè nĭ shāng xīn shāng rén bù shāng nĭ]
Hurting Hearts but Not Yours: Emphasizes an internal pain and sorrow experienced deeply by oneself without necessarily affecting someone else in the same way. It shows a willingness to endure hardship or suffering personally so as not to hurt others.