为自己的哭泣找借口为自己的伤心找理由
[wéi zì jĭ de kū qì zhăo jiè kŏu wéi zì jĭ de shāng xīn zhăo lĭ yóu]
'Finding excuses for one's own crying and reasons for one's own sadness' indicates that the person might be comforting themselves or justifying their emotional distress, implying an internal struggle with personal feelings and hardships.