伸手不及放手为空
[shēn shŏu bù jí fàng shŏu wéi kōng]
'Out of reach if stretch hand out, let go it becomes void'-a philosophical expression indicating impermanence of life or relationships. Reaching out only shows what you've lost when you hold tightly, which becomes even worse when it's finally given up. Represents the bitterness of failure in pursuit.