你若不坚强软弱给谁看
[nĭ ruò bù jiān qiáng ruăn ruò jĭ shéi kàn]
The saying means 'If you don't stay strong, then whose fault is your being vulnerable?'. This reflects a self-consoling belief that no one will truly care whether you show strength or weakness. It also suggests a person who has been through hard times learns to face reality by themselves, becoming stronger rather than staying vulnerable.