患得患失忽冷忽热若即若离
        
            [huàn dé huàn shī hū lĕng hū rè ruò jí ruò lí]
        
        
            This phrase 'Gain and lose, indifferent but concerned, distant yet intimate' depicts a complicated relationship or state of mind - swinging between wanting someone/something badly and fearing its departure, while at times acting apathetic, yet actually caring a lot and maintaining an ambiguous relation.