只怪自己没他温柔只怪自己没她温柔
[zhĭ guài zì jĭ méi tā wēn róu zhĭ guài zì jĭ méi tā wēn róu]
An expression of self-criticism regarding lack of gentleness or care compared to another person. Could refer to both genders as examples of how someone feels insufficient in comparison to others perceived as more caring or affectionate.