难不难过都是自己过痛不痛心都是自己痛
[nán bù nán guò dōu shì zì jĭ guò tòng bù tòng xīn dōu shì zì jĭ tòng]
Expresses personal resilience in emotional pain: 'Whether it is sad or not is all one's own process to deal with. The pain in heart has to be faced personally'.