得不到比失去更残忍失去比得不到更残忍
[dé bù dào bĭ shī qù gèng cán rĕn shī qù bĭ dé bù dào gèng cán rĕn]
'Losing Is More Cruel Than Not Having at All and Not Having Is Crueler Than Losing' expresses a profound ambivalence about loss and possession. Both conditions are painful: wanting something you can never have and having something only to lose it later.