意合神离
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Harmony of Intentions But Alienation of Hearts expresses harmony at the level of ideas or goals, but emotional separation or estrangement. Two individuals may appear united when considering plans, interests, or objectives but have divergent thoughts or feel alienated inside. They cannot achieve deep connections on emotional levels, possibly due to incompatible personalities, differing life experiences, value clashes, misunderstandings or poor communication.