偷腥还是偷心忠心还是终心
[tōu xīng hái shì tōu xīn zhōng xīn hái shì zhōng xīn]
A poetic expression which roughly means 'Is it a betrayal of loyalty by stealing affections or does loyalty eventually turn into true heart?'. This is a reflection of ambivalence between temptation/deviation from the norms versus long-term loyalty towards commitments.