不是我不饶而是你不要
[bù shì wŏ bù ráo ér shì nĭ bù yào]
Translates as 'it's not that I won't forgive you, but you don't want it'. Implies that if reconciliation doesn't happen, it's due to the unwillingness of the other party to reconcile rather than the bearer's refusal to let bygones be bygones.